The cool difficult facts are, then this isnвЂ™t going to work if you canвЂ™t handle a poly relationship вЂ“ and not everyone can. IвЂ™ve myself seen folks whom attempted to be cool with being poly before it was over because it was the only way they could be in a relationship with the person they lovedвЂ¦ and it caused everybody no end of grief. And never to appear insensitive, however you must be usually the one to manage your anxieties. Your boyfriend is right: this can be element of whom he could be, it is one thing you knew moving in, and telling him to alter since you canвЂ™t handle it really isnвЂ™t reasonable to him. In the same way constantly subjecting your self to misery is not reasonable for your requirements.
Then the first thing you need to do is get yourself into therapy to deal with your anxieties if you want to try to make a go of this. Just throwing your self to the mix and hoping that youвЂ™ll go numb eventually is just a bad concept. Continue reading